I've had sex with with 4 different guys in my life. With one of these men it never hurt, and yet with all the other ones (including my current boyfriend) it always does. I feel like it's destroying my current relationship. What can I and/or my boyfriend do to make it more comfortable?
It sounds as though your body isn't "warmed up" enough to be ready for sexual intercourse. Foreplay is an important step and should never be skipped over. Foreplay allows the vaginal walls to warm up and loosen before inserting the penis. A tip to try is using a small dildo or vibrator and massage the outside of the vagina and eventually inside as well. This will also allow you to relax and feel more comfortable before sex. We offer a wide variety of dildos and vibrators both in-store and on our website. Another tip is to make sure that you use lots of lubricant. Lubricants significantly decrease the amount of friction caused during sex and allow your session to last longer.
My boyfriend and I are interested in getting a lubricant. Neither of us know anything about lubricant. What's the difference between silicone and water-based? What are heating and flavoured lubricants used for? We don't do anal and are interested in experimenting with different kinds of lubricants, please lead us in the right direction :)
You are right, there are a ton of lubricants on the market these days, and finding one that is suitable for you is the number one thing. The difference between silicone and water based lubricants is that silicone will stay on the surface of the skin and not absorb into you like a water based one would do. If you are a toy user and enjoy silicone, soft jellies or cyberskin materials using a silicone lube may be to concentrated and can break down these materials. During vaginal intercourse I always like to recommend a high quality water based lube.
For anal sex I would recommend a silicone lube, silicone lubes are very slick and slippery and make anal intercourse a little bit easier.
A good tasting edible lube is great for oral sex and body licking, while warming lubes are also good for toy use. If you have a glass or plastic vibe/dong, applying a warming lubricant may help your body adjust to the temperature of the toy. Just have fun with this and always enjoy yourself. All of our Stag Shop locations carry a variety of these products so feel free to come in and one of our knowledgeable staff members will be more then happy to assist you.
For more information on lubricants, click here to view our Lubricants information page.
My partner has had prostrate cancer and can not perform and he is frustrated about this, as he would love to perform like he used to. Is there anything that you may have to help with this?
There are many ways to help you through this challenging time. We carry a variety of penis extensions. Check out our extensions section for options. All he has to do is simply place his flaccid penis into the extension and turn the controller on to create vibrations for you. Using a water based lube is always important with the use of any toy. If your husband does not feel comfortable with wearing a male extension, using a penis shaped dildo is also a great way to get him participating in the bedroom with you. All of these products are available on our online store or any of our locations where an eager sales associate is always ready to assist you and answer any questions you may have.
When I am having sex, I don't know why but I cum too early. I don't mean within seconds (more like 15-20 minutes) but how do I make that last longer.
First off, 15-20 minutes to a lot of women is definitely a good thing. If you would like to increase your endurance from there, we carry many products to aid you along your way. Try purchasing a male desensitizer such as Premjact Delay Spray For Men. These amazing and fast working products will add a minimum of at least 40 minutes to your already 15-20. Apply the product when your penis is erect and make sure you give at least 20 minutes to allow absorption into the skin. You don't want to numb your partner and you want the product to work efficiently as well. You will notice a slight numbing effect to your penis which will decrease your sensitivity.
I would like to try anal sex with my wife, but my wife doesn't want to try it. What could I do to help her loosen up?
Great question! There are ways to get her in the mood but if she is not 100% mentally and physically ready to try anal sex, she won't do it so don't force her into it.
I recommend taking your time and build up by starting with anal play, instead of jumping right in to anal intercourse. A great way to start would be to create a comfortable environment for you and your wife, and take things slow. Try a small anal vibe. Remember, if she's not relaxed and at ease, she won't want to continue, so make sure to take your time with everything.
If you'd like to read more information regarding anal play for couples, click here to refer to our Anal Pleasures page.
I suffer from premature ejaculation. A friend of mine recommended I try a penis-ring. Do they really work?
Yes, penis rings really work! Because you're just starting out using them, I recommend trying a flexible, adjustable ring. Once you gain more experience with them, you can try different kinds. The Stag Shop offers a variety of cock rings.
To use a penis ring, simply place the ring at the base of the penis, right behind the scrotum. If you're using an adjustable ring, you can put it on and off at any time, however inflexible rings (ie. metal rings) must be put on while the penis is still flaccid. The ring works by temporarily cutting off blood flow from the penis, which help keeps the penis erect, even after ejaculation. Some people have even experienced a temporarily increase in girth while wearing a ring.
That said, I must stress the importance of using a ring properly. Because the ring is restricting blood flow, we do NOT recommend wearing any ring for longer than 25-30 minutes at a time. For beginners, it's best to try using the ring for only 5-10 minutes at a time, and build up your time from there. Also, make sure you do not wear a ring that is too tight. Rings that are too tight, or are worn for too long, can cause pain and irritation, and may be damaging to your health.
Remember, if you're experiencing any discomfort at any time, remove the ring immediately. Another benefit of having an adjustable ring is that it can be removed at any time if you experience any discomfort. If you need to remove a metal ring immediately, you'll need lube and lots of ice to lessen the erection. We also recommend not using a ring if you have cardiovascular problems, are diabetic, or take any blood thinning medication. If you aren't sure, consult a doctor or physician before use.
If you're hesitant about trying a penis ring but still want to prolong ejaculation, another option would be to try a desensitizer, such as the Premjact Delay Spray. Desensitizers are applied to the penis a few minutes before intercourse and create a slight numbness. This will dull some (but not all!) of the sensations, which will help you from ejaculating too early.
I was curious, what is the best way to clean yourself out before having anal sex?
My suggestion to you before doing any anal play is to purchase an anal douche. It's a small plastic bottle with a skinny entry tip that can be fill with warm water. Simply squeeze the bottle of water into the anus to get yourself flushed out and you'll be ready for any kind of anal play!
I recently started dating a wealthy younger woman, who I met online. After being with her for a couple of months, I've realized that we don't have too much in common, and aren't that compatible as a couple. However, she is great in bed and gives fantastic head. Is a great sex life enough to keep a relationship together?
We all know that great sex is important in any relationship, but it is not the only thing needed to keep a relationship together. Relationships should be built on the foundations of trust, compatibility, and communication. To be in a relationship for the sole purpose of money or sex might be fun now, but could be damaging in the long run.
I suggest you take a step back from the sex and try and build the trust and communication aspects of your relationship. Try spending some time with her without any sexual activity. As you continue to date, you can re-introduce the sexual activity. Remember, it doesn't always have to be about the sex.
What is the male G-Spot and how may I stimulate it? Hubby has done wonders for mine, I'd love to return the favour.
I'm already lovin' you for understanding what's good for the goose is good for the gander. An often unrecognized yet extremely sensitive spot on a man's body is his prostate, often referred to as the male G-spot. It is located inside his anus in about the same place as the female G-spot is in a woman's vagina, two to three inches in, on the tummy side. Being a highly sensitive zone (with numerous nerve endings) and being stimulated by the stronger pudendal nerve, ignoring it would be like ignoring a woman's clitoris and G-spot (also stimulated by the pudendal nerve). His penis is only accessible to the weaker pelvic nerve, the same nerve which takes care of the vagina (hence 70% of women can't come from vaginal stimulation alone). Knowing that, I'm sure I don't have to spell out the difference touching the right nerve can make, especially since most men have never experienced the pleasure, because of where it's located. And when he digs it, don't read anything into it - sensation doth not orientation make.
Now that we have all that straightened out, I bet you're wondering what's the easiest way to stimulate him there. My recommendation is to invest in a slim, silicone butt plug, one that's not much wider than the width of your thumb. If you can buy a vibrating one, all the better. Once you have the butt plug, make sure you lube it up extremely generously, with silicone compatible lube. Next, use the tip to gently massage the opening to his anus, along the muscular ring, much like rimming. As you see it relax and pulsate, slowly insert the butt plug inside the anus, really taking your time. At this point, you can just leave it there and let it do it's thing, while you may provide extra, indirect sensations by massaging his perineum (the smooth hairless area between the balls and the anus) with a finger vibrator. Whether you're making love or going oral, anal stimulation will give him a blended orgasm that's twice as powerful as anything he's experienced from penile stimulation alone.
