3 Ways to Use App-Controlled Toys for BDSM Play

What are app-controlled toys?

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They are sex toys that can connect to an app and be controlled by someone else who is not physically with you…most can work anywhere in the world with an internet connection! We have lots more information about these types of toys and how they work here.

So how can you incorporate these types of toys into your BDSM play? Firstly, it’s important to remember that BDSM is a large umbrella that can include all types of different activities and toys. However, here are our top 3 suggestions!

1. Relinquish and/or take control of someone else’s toy

One of the most popular features of app-controlled toys is the ability to have someone else take over the control of your toy. This can be especially ideal for any Dominant & submissive interactions - even in public thanks to the discretion of an app - it looks like you’re just scrolling on your phone!

Whether combined with D/s play or all on its own, you can also play with edging; where stimulation is stopped right before orgasm to bring you back down (and eventually up!) again for a stronger climax.

2. Make it personal

Make it personal to your specific partner(s), activity, etc. with a variety of customization options within your app! Just be sure to check out what kind of features your brand’s specific app provides before you play - check out our playlist on YouTube!

For example, if group play is part of your scene, consensually invite other play partners in to take turns controlling the toy(s). You could also create personalized vibration patterns and assign them to specific partners, scenes, scenarios, praises & punishments, and more!

3. Show & Tell

Most apps have the option for live video & chat and recordings to be sent during messaging; use this to your advantage with some sexy recordings for any play partners!

Send a video of you using the toy as a gift to a Dominant or alternatively, instruct your sub exactly how you want them to use it and make them send a video to prove it. If role-playing is part of your play, be sure to show off any outfits & be in character when you send those sexy sounds someone’s way!