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How to Use a Dildo: A Friendly Guide for First-Timers

September 18, 2024

Exploring your own pleasure with a sex toy is an empowering journey, and using dildo sex toys can be an exciting part of that adventure. Whether you're new to sex toys or just curious about how to incorporate one into your sex life, it's normal to feel a mix of excitement and curiosity, maybe even a little nervousness. The good news? There's no "right" way to use a dildo—only what feels good to you.

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Choosing Your First Dildo

Dildos come in all shapes, sizes, and styles. If you're new to vaginal penetration, you might prefer starting with a smaller, non-intimidating option. On the other hand, if you're feeling adventurous, a large dildo or even an inflatable dildo might be more up your alley.

Dildos are made from various materials, each offering a different feel. Silicone is a popular choice—it's body-safe, flexible, and can have a soft, skin-like texture. Glass offers a smooth, solid feel, perfect for those who enjoy firm pressure. And if you're into anal play, metal or glass might provide that extra bit of firmness and weight you crave.

Finding the Right Fit: So Many Options!

Choosing your first dildo is all about comfort and curiosity. Think about what excites you. Do you want something small and straightforward, or are you drawn to the idea of a vibrating dildo? If you're exploring anal play, you could even try a dildo and butt plug combo for a new dimension of pleasure.

Whatever your preference, there's a perfect match waiting for you. Here are some of the options you can find at Stag Shop:

  • Glass Dildos: These offer a smooth, firm feel and can be heated or cooled for a unique sensory experience. They're perfect for those who appreciate visual and tactile pleasure.
  • Vibrating Dildos: For those who crave a little extra buzz, vibrating dildos combine the fullness of a traditional dildo with the thrilling vibrations often associated with toys like bullet vibrators. These are great for solo play or enhancing partnered experiences.
  • Realistic Dildos: Crafted to resemble the real deal, a realistic dildo offers a more lifelike experience, with various sizes and textures to choose from. Perfect for those who want a more authentic feel.
  • Suction Cup Dildos: Want to go hands-free? Suction cup dildos can be attached to smooth surfaces, giving you the freedom to experiment with different positions and angles.
  • Double Dildos: If you're curious about double penetration or want to share the experience with a partner, double-ended dildos offer a versatile and thrilling option.
  • Large or Inflatable Dildos: If you enjoy the sensation of fullness, these dildos can be adjusted to your comfort level, making them great for those who like to take things to the next level.

How to Use a Dildo for the First Time: Take Your Time & Find Your Groove

Before you get down to business, set the mood. Think of it as creating a little sanctuary of pleasure, just for you. Whether it's dimming the lights, playing your favorite playlist, or slipping into something that makes you feel sexy—this time is all about you. Creating a comfortable environment is all about what makes you feel relaxed and open to pleasure. 

Lube is your best friend when it comes to dildo play. Silicone-based lubes are great for longer-lasting slickness, but they shouldn't be used with silicone toys. For silicone dildos, water-based lube is the way to go—it's safe, easy to clean up, and feels just right.

Take It Slow

There's no rush. Start by teasing yourself with the dildo, gliding it along your body to build anticipation. When you're ready, begin inserting it slowly, paying attention to your body's cues. 

Try Different Angles and Positions

Experimenting with different angles and positions can make a big difference. Lying on your back with your knees up is a good starting point, but don't be afraid to try kneeling, squatting, or even standing. Each position offers different sensations, so have fun with it!

Stay present and tuned into your body. Breathe deeply, relax, and let the sensations guide you. It's perfectly normal to feel a range of emotions—excitement, nervousness, or pure pleasure. Embrace them all and go with the flow.

Maximizing Pleasure: Tips and Tricks for More Fun

Once you're comfortable using your dildo, there are plenty of ways to enhance the experience and make it even more pleasurable. Why not get creative? Incorporate your dildo into partnered play, or combine it with other toys like a bullet vibrator or a butt plug. This can add new dimensions to your sexual experience, whether you're flying solo or with someone else.

Targeting the G-Spot

If you're interested in G-spot stimulation, aim the dildo's curve towards your belly button and experiment with gentle pressure. The G-spot is located a few inches inside the vagina, and stimulating it can produce deeply satisfying sensations.

Clitoral Stimulation

Adding clitoral stimulation to your dildo play can heighten the pleasure even further. Whether using a vibrating dildo or pairing your dildo with a bullet vibrator, stimulating both the clitoris and vagina simultaneously can lead to explosive orgasms.

Double Penetration

Feeling adventurous? Double penetration can be explored by using a dildo for vaginal penetration and a butt plug for anal play. This combination can offer a new level of intensity and pleasure.

Orgasms are the cherry on top, but the journey to get there is just as important. Pay attention to what feels good and let your body guide you. Whether you climax or not, the goal is to enjoy the process and learn more about what turns you on.

Aftercare and Hygiene

Once the fun is over, a little aftercare goes a long way in keeping things safe and satisfying. Cleaning your dildo is important for keeping things hygienic. Most dildos can be cleaned with warm water and a toy cleaner or mild soap after each use. Pay attention to any textures or crevices where bacteria could hide. Let it air dry or pat it down with a clean towel before storing it away.

After play, take a moment to relax and hydrate. Listen to what your body needs, whether it's a nap, a snack, or just basking in that post-orgasmic glow. This is your time to unwind and reflect on the experience.

Think about what you enjoyed and what you might want to try next time. Maybe a different angle, a new position, or a different type of dildo? The possibilities are endless, and each session can bring you closer to understanding your own pleasure.

Ready to Explore New Sensations?

Using a dildo for the first time is a journey of self-discovery and pleasure. Remember, there's no right or wrong way to do it—just what feels good for you. Celebrate this step in your sexual exploration, and remember, Stag Shop is here to support you every step of the way. We carry everything from beginners dildos & dongs to vibrators, strap-ons, large dildos, lingerie and much more! 

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