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"Will My Wife Like This?" : A Complete Guide To Shopping For Your Significant Other

January 23, 2026

A common question we hear from customers is "will my partner like this toy?" Unfortunately, that’s one question we can’t answer. Every body is different, and so are preferences. While we truly appreciate that you’re asking with the best intentions, the truth is you’re asking the wrong person. The only one who can really answer that question is your partner.

The best way to shop for someone else is to shop with them or have an in-depth conversation about their interests, curiosities, and comfort levels when it comes to pleasure products. We know that a sneaky shopping trip to surprise your significant other often comes from a place of love and excitement. So if you don’t want to outright ask them what types of toys they enjoy or are curious about experimenting with, here are a few helpful tips to guide you while still keeping the element of surprise.

They Like Their Nipples Pinched / Played With During Intimacy

If your SO is known to enjoy a little nipple play, this can be a great opportunity to introduce fun, nipple-focused toys like clamps. Not only do they look incredibly sexy, they provide just the right amount of pinch while leaving your hands free to explore other areas. Beginner-friendly options to consider include Selopa Beaded Nipple Clamps or Pipedream Alligator Nipple Clamps and suction-style toys like Cal Exotics Nipple Suckers. If you’re feeling less adventurous and want to test the waters first, Nipple Nibblers pleasure balm is a playful way to enjoy your partner’s nipples without introducing toys at all.

They Love Oral Sex

If your partner enjoys a little “trip downtown,” consider exploring some of our amazing oral sex simulator toys. For those who prefer to keep their tongues in action, a flavored lubricant or edible liquid can make the experience even more exciting and enjoyable. For clitoral stimulators that mimic oral sex, we love Pipedream's Ultimate Pleasure Double Ended Vibrator, Evolved's Wild Rose Vibrator, and Pillow Talk's Lusty Flickering Vibrator. These all mimic a flickering tongue and are a great option for folks who crave a good clit-licking. We also recommend Air Pulse stimulators or oral fans, as the pulsating air stimulates the clitoris in a unique way that some compare to really great oral.

For blowjob lovers, there's numerous toys that can mimic a BJ. Some of the most popular are The Autoblow or The Gawk Gawk. If you're interesting in supplementing a blowjob with a toy to take a little of the work out of it, you can add a toy like Fleshlight Quickshot. You can also explore the full Mouth Strokers collection for even more inspiration.

We know there’s nothing quite like the real thing, but for those looking to enhance their oral experience, a flavored lube can turn your lover into a delicious treat. Explore our Oral Sex & Edibles collection for a full range of fun products that keep both your mouth and your partner thoroughly entertained.

They Like A Little Backdoor Play

It's most certainly not taboo anymore! Backdoor play is the perfect level up for any gender and it can be remarkably enjoyable to add to your playtime. Anal toys can seriously enhance intercourse or solo sessions and the options of materials, sizes, and styles are vast. For beginners, we recommend looking at our Beginner Anal Toy collection, and of course - don't forget the LUBE! The anus is not self-lubricating, so any type of play requires lube to prevent injury or discomfort.

Some of our bestselling beginner anal products include: Onyxxx Tushe Anal Trainer Set, Tantus Little Flirt Butt Plug, and Selopa Beaded Aventure Anal Beads.

They're A Little Kinky

Whether they like it a little rougher or have expressed interest in restraints, spanking, or other kinky activities, we have some exciting products that introduce BDSM play without intimidating or causing pain to your partner. Sensory play can be a great way to build anticipation and heighten sensation. From blindfolds to ticklers, sensory play is a great intro to kink without feeling overwhelming or too hardcore.

If restraints are something you'd like to play with, there's plenty of beginner friendly options that are easy to put on and remove and don't feel intimidating. We love Sex & Mischief's Silicone Cuffs and Sportsheets Door Jam Cuffs. You can also use Bondage Rope in various ways to restrain your partner to the bed or other furniture (just make sure you have some scissors handy just in case).

Bondage Kits can also be a great way to get a little taste of everything to see what your favourite items are, making it easy to explore, experiment, and discover what truly excites you.

They Prefer Penetration

If the G spot or P spot is where they enjoy stimulation, penetration toys are a great option. These toys can be vibrating or static (non-vibrating) and come in a wide variety of materials and styles. Designs with angled and/or bulbous tips are typically best for targeting the G or P spot, making it easier to hit those pleasure points with confidence. Firmer toys can also be especially effective - think sleek glass or metal for more precise stimulation.

Some of our bestselling vibrating G Spot toys are We-Vibe Rave 2 App Controlled G-Spot Vibrator, The Swan Wand, and Pillow Talk Sassy G Spot Vibrator. If you’re looking for a static option, glass and metal toys are ultra-hygienic, eco-friendly, and built to last. With no motors to wear out and exceptionally high-quality materials, they can be enjoyed for years to come. Shop our collection of non-vibrating G-Spot toys here.

For P-Spot toys, similar rules apply. Some beginner friendly prostate toys we love include the entire Aneros line, b-Vibe P-Spot Slim Prostate Massager, or pretty much anything from Shots Toys' Levelz Collection. If you're interesting in metal prostate toys, b-Vibe's Stainless Steel Prostate Training Kit or Plug are fantastic options.

They Crave Shared Sensations

Let's be real, shared sensations mean everyone is winning! There's loads of toys that can satisfy both people at once, and can turn up the heat to your favourite activities! Vibrating Cock Rings are a great place to start for couples who enjoy PIV (penis-in-vagina) or anal sex. They offer added support and stamina for the wearer while delivering pleasurable vibrations for the receiver, making them a win-win for shared play.

There's also wearable vibrators that can be worn in the vagina that stimulate both partners during PIV sex such as the We-Vibe Chorus, We-Vibe Sync O, or We-Vibe Sync Lite. These are all best selling toys for a reason, and we can't argue with customer satisfaction! Couples vibrators are an easy, exciting way to boost connection, shared pleasure, and intimacy.

If you're looking for toys for pegging or strap-on play that keep both parties equally fulfilled, we love Together's Double Tap Vibrating Strapless Strap-On, Playboy's Hug It Out Strapless Strap-On With Anal Stimulator, or Cal Exotic's Me2 Rumbler. Vibrating pegging toys and strapless strap-ons open the door to hands-free fun, deeper connection, and exciting role exploration that are keep everyone happy.

If You're Still Not Sure Where To Start

We get it, toy shopping can feel overwhelming and even a little tedious. If you’re still looking to add something exciting to your spicy time, there are plenty of other options beyond traditional toys to enjoy. You can start out by introducing some warming & cooling lubricants or arousal gels to add unique sensations to intercourse or masturbation. You can also incorporate some sensual massage products like oils or wand vibrators to spoil your special someone with a soothing full body pampering.

Sexy games are a fun way to spark spicy scenarios and take the guesswork out of heating up your bedroom play. There's a ton to choose from and they range from mild to wild. Explore our Games & Kits collection to see what's right for you.