While it may not be for everyone, taking your sexy time public is a hot turn-on and/or fantasy for many! Your kinky public play can be whatever you want it to be and range from simply adding in a remote control toy, to taking it to a more intricate BDSM level by negotiating the entire night down to what you will wear and how you’ll behave.

Regardless of just how you choose to indulge your fantasies, planning ahead can be key! Just as you may peep at the menu of a new restaurant ahead of time, the same can be said for scoping out the sexy stuff too. Since the thrill is typically about *not* getting caught (and sorry but strangers haven’t consented to see what’s going down, even accidentally), find the bathroom, perhaps requested a more secluded table, etc.

1. Vibrating Underwear & Remote Control Toys

Cal Exotics Remote Control Boxer Brief Set Assorted Sizes

Vibrating underwear are meant to be worn underneath your clothes and many often come with a wireless remote control that makes the vibrating part more discreet to control. Even some of the remotes are sneaky, featuring designs in the form of rings, watches, or even an app on your phone! Wear them out and hand off the remote to a partner who gets to watch you squirm with pleasure.

2. App-Controlled Toys

Ohmibod BlueMotion Nex3 Bluetooth Rechargeable Ring

Speaking of app control...vibrating underwear isn’t the only type of sex toy that can be controlled through an app! Many brands feature a variety of different toys including cock rings, butt plugs, strokers, and all sorts of different vibrators!

Using an app can add an extra layer of discretion, because who wouldn’t think twice about someone being on their phone a lot!? Have more questions about how these types of toys work? We’ve answered many of your frequently asked questions about them here!

3. Send Dirty Media

You can use it as a way to get amped up for what’s to come while you’re apart, or as a way to sneakily turn each other on while together! Some ideas of what to send could include; nudes or pictures of yourself in lingerie, voice notes of what you want to do later, porn, videos of yourself, etc.

4. Wear a Collar

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A collar is a simple accessory that can symbolize more, such as a deeper and more 24/7 type of Dominant & submissive relationship. Always seeming to come back in trend too, they can easily blend in with other more casual outfits in your day-to-day outings.

5. Remove Undergarments

...and go out completely commando instead! It might even provide a different sensation to your sweet spots as you move around with the fabric rubbing up against you without any barriers.

6. Wear a Butt Plug

Lovense Hush Bluetooth Vibrating Butt Plug

Butt plugs are known for being able to stimulate internally for longer periods of time, around 2-3 hours! Stick one inside and try doing activities together that could potentially move it around in different ways such as going for a walk, out dancing, a trampoline park, etc.

Pro Tip: This would also be a good time to add in that remote control we mentioned earlier!

7. Plan “Secret Phrases” Ahead of Time

A fun and sexy game to play during a public outing together is to come up with secret phrases and actions associated with them. For example, “I’m going to the bathroom” could mean “meet me in the bathroom for a quickie” or “get me a drink” could mean “I’m going to go insert my toy now”.

8. Incorporate Other D/s Elements

If the power imbalance of Dominant & submissive play excites you, try incorporating some of your favourite elements from the bedroom out in public. Things like speech & movement restrictions, completing specific tasks, or any other type of “rules” that are personal to you and your playmate.

...and if a submissive isn’t following the agreed to rules, up the ante with a punishment!

9. Wear Bondage Gear

Coquette 20201 Harness Top & Crotchless Panty Set Merlot OS

Under your clothing, a chest or body harness can add a kinky, dungeon feel to any look! Lots of other bondage & restraint items can easily hide under clothes too such as wrist and ankle cuffs under sleeves and pants.

10. A “Spanking” Game

Based on the classic drinking game (“drink every time ___”), you can make up your own game by providing a naughtier outcome - like a spanking - to recurring things. Does that person at the next table clear their throat more than usual? Make an agreement that one “throat-clearing” equals one spanking when you’re home!

Get creative with the environment around you and use it to your naughty, naughty advantage later!