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BDSM Play When You're Single

Not just for partners, have you ever considered adding BDSM play into your solo self-love routine?!
Emily Zawadzki
May 27, 2021

Whether you’re newer to BDSM in general or are simply looking to add some of your favourite activities/toys into the masturbating mix, you can absolutely explore the dark side while single!

Pssst...want this information in a watchable, video-format instead!? Check out our YouTube video down below!

 

If you’re newer to BDSM, it can be helpful to start off by doing some research to help you figure out what types of toys or activities you actually want to explore. There are many included under the BDSM umbrella and not all of them may appeal to you personally!

Sensory Play

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There are a couple of different ways to play with the senses including adding to them or removing them altogether! Indulge one or more of your senses by using some of your favourite arousing fragrances, tastes, textured toys, etc. You can also pair a blindfold to any solo play to heighten the other senses that much more.

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Temperature play is a popular way for folks to experience the stimulating sensations that hot and cold can bring to the skin. Glass and/or metal toys are perfect as they easily retain the temperature of choice for longer periods of time. Another way to play with temperatures on a lighter scale is with warming and cooling lubricants.

Restraints

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Not all restraints require the help of another person to get in and out of! Simpler restraints, like handcuffs, can be attached to each other so that you can still touch yourself and/or control your toy properly...all with the fantasy of being tied up.

Power Dynamics

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Power dynamics (often seen as Dominant & submissive play) is a very common theme throughout the BDSM world and there are so many different ways you could play!

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If being on the submissive side of things is your kink, try wearing a mouth gag or collar while masturbating. If you’re comfortable, wear the collar around the house and/or as an accessory out of the house to explore a more intense and 24/7 type of lifestyle while still solo.

Pain & Pleasure

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If pain is your thing (or you’re simply curious), you can practice on yourself while still having full control of your instrument of choice. For example, if exploring impact play, you can choose how light or hard you want the impact to be - from a tickle to a smack.

This self-practice can also be helpful and informational for any Dominants who enjoy wielding impact tools on their submissives!

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Nipple play can be enjoyed by folks of all genders and identities as the nipples are an erogenous zone, full of sensitive nerve endings! Explore different types of nipple clamps which were designed to pinch the nipple until they are released. Most nipple clamps are adjustable and some have rubber tips for added comfort while others provide more pressure/pain.

Explore Any Fetishes

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You don’t need a partner (in fact you may even find it easier) to explore any fetishes you may have been curious about from feet to panties and everything in between.

Pssst....

Lastly, as more of a bonus tip - get out there and find your local kink scene! It’s likely that you’re going to get excited, curious, etc. about everything and while you may not have a partner to share these thoughts and feelings with, you are absolutely not alone.

Kinky people can be found everywhere - even in the deep country - you just have to know where to look! Try things like the social platform Fetlife™ and/or in-person (or virtual) kink classes by professionals and leading kinksters in your own community.

 

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