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Get a Grip on Handjobs

July 21st is national handjob day and to celebrate, we thought we’d take the time to go over some ways to enhance this often underrated sexual activity!
Emily Zawadzki
July 17, 2020

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Handjobs can be used as the main event of sexual activity or as a foreplay activity as they can easily build into a blowjob, penetrative sex, etc. They are also considered a generally safer sexual activity (from STI’s & pregnancy) as hardly any fluids are being transferred which can make a handjob a great alternative to penetrative sex.

Whether you’ve already cum, are tired, or simply aren’t into P-in-V sex anymore, a handjob is another way to keep pleasing your partner. Handjobs are a discreet sex act that you can do even in the most cramped of spaces like in a bathroom stall, in a car, etc.

Brush up on some of the penis anatomy basics in our previous blog here. Otherwise, here’s how you can enhance any handjob, anytime!

1. Use a Masturbation Cream

Wicked Sensual Care Masturbation Creme 4oz

Wetter is definitely better here as a dry handjob could leave both parties feeling chaffed and not so aroused.

There are even specialty “lubes” that are made with the idea of masturbation (or a handjob) in mind. These products start off as a cream or lotion type consistency and then with the heat of your hand & friction, melts into a more slippery lube!

Shop masturbation creams here!

2. Use a Stroker

Doc Johnson GoodHead Helping Head Stroker

A handheld masturbation sleeve or stroker can be the perfect addition to any handjob. Since many are textured on the inside, they provide a more stimulating and unique sensation with each touch. Look for one that is clear so that you can see all of your stroking action in motion!

Shop all handheld strokers here!

3. Try it With Cuffs On

Sportsheets Saffron Handcuffs

For a kinky twist, give your handjob while wearing a pair of handcuffs - especially ones that can attach together. Not only does it provide a visual treat for your partner to see you restrained, but it can also force you to switch up some movements as you’ll need to accommodate for having your hands bound together.

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4. Look, Listen, and Learn.

taking notes gif

Communication is always important for sexual activity, so the next time you are mutually masturbating or you see them touching themselves - ask and watch how they like to do it with their own hand(s) and try to emulate their moves back to them.

In addition, when you are giving them one, watch and feel how their body reacts to your touches; it’ll give you an idea as to just how your partner likes to have their penis stimulated.

5. Circumcised vs Uncircumcised Penises

pulling down a turtleneck gif

Giving a handjob to a penis with the foreskin still attached is basically the same, except for a few things to consider:

  • The foreskin will pull back on its own - don’t do it manually as that could feel like an overstimulation to the head of the penis.

  • The head of the penis is already one of the more sensitive parts of the penis, but with the foreskin being intact and protecting/covering it the majority of the time, it is even more sensitive underneath when it is exposed (aka aroused).

  • The extra tissue can act a bit like a masturbation sleeve as well.

6. Explore Down Yonder

ooooh gif

If consented to, try experimenting with some sensations on the perineum and/or the anus as well. You can apply light pressure, use a bullet vibe, or even try gently stroking the perineum while stroking the penis as well.

7. Switch Up Your Hand Movements

sims secret handshake gif

Yes, up and down movement is super stimulating and covers a lot of the penis at once, but don’t be afraid to try some new moves!

Infinite Hole

Start at the tip of the penis and work your way down slowly with it in your hand, once you see the tip poke through at the top, put your other hand there and do the same motion so that it’s like one smooth, never-ending stroking motion!

Thumbs Up For the Frenulum

Sitting facing your partner at the same level, interlock your fingers around the penis with your thumbs out and near the tip of the penis. From here you can use your thumbs to stimulate the frenulum (the under of the penis), an incredibly sensitive area for most penis owners. In massage-like motions, experiment with different pressures as you move your thumbs around.

DIY Cock Ring

Making an “O” with your thumb and finger, place it around the base of the penis while you continue to use your other hand to stroke. As intended, you might see the penis change in colour and it might even feel a bit thicker as the blood stays constricted to the penis. Experiment with different levels of pressure and go with what is comfortable and pleasurable to the penis owner!

8. Save The Speed ‘til The Finish Line

you're going too fast gif

The point of a handjob (and all sexual activities really) is to give & receive pleasure, so why speed up the process? Start off slow and build up to some of the quicker, more conventional “jerk off” motions that can usually be counted on for an explosive ending!

 

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