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Reasons You Should Add Masturbation Into Your Relationship

Here's why you should WANT to add masturbation into your relationship too!
Emily Zawadzki
May 17, 2022

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While many of us think of masturbation as just something to do when you're single, here's why you should WANT to add masturbation into your relationship too!

1. It keeps you connected with yourself & your body outside of your partner (self-love baby!)

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In the famous words of mama Ru Paul "If you can't love yourself, how in the hell are you going to love somebody else?!” (Amen!). You can make masturbating it’s own special routine for yourself with a lingerie outfit, your fav toy(s), candles, and some mood lighting. Alternatively, simply pair it with some of the other things you may normally do for self-care like a bubble bath, meditating, or wearing a face mask.

2. It's the ultimate quickie

Since you often know how to get yourself off quickest, masturbating is a great way to get some pleasure (and probably an orgasm or two) without having to think about the time, prep, or stamina involved typically with partnered sex.

3. It can help you to relax & de-stress

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We all get stressed out from time to time and what better way to de-stress than an orgasm? Especially if sex isn't available to you and/or sex is the thing that is causing relationship stress, you can still get that relieving serotonin rush all by yourself!

4. If you do it together…

*Technically* that’s called mutually masturbating and it can help with all of the above points while also being hot AND informative. Watching your partner get themselves off while physically in front of you (or on camera) is a visually stimulating treat plus a quick how-to lesson of what gets them off - and same for you!

5. It's ideal for those with mismatched libidos

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Which tbh is most couples so when your partner isn't in the mood or doesn’t want to keep going but you are/do, you can still give yourself pleasure & release!

6. It can help you to figure out your fantasies

Many folks use pornography, erotic fiction, their spank bank, or any other type of visual stimulation when masturbating which can bring up some interesting fantasies or kinks you may not have realized you were interested in! Once you discover these things, you can then work on bringing them up to your partner(s) if you wanted to bring any to life.