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Prostate Stimulation 101

Have you ever wondered how to stimulate your or someone else’s prostate!?
Emily Zawadzki
November 16, 2021

Have you ever wondered how to stimulate your or someone else’s prostate!? Look no further than this beginner’s guide to prostate play!

The prostate is located around 2-2.5 inches within the anus for people with penises and is not much bigger than an inch! It sits close to the base of the penis and is also tucked behind the bladder, which is why some folks enjoy urethral play & sounding to stimulate the prostate as well.

People can experience prostate sensations differently; for example, some folks get an erection with prostate play while others don’t. As with all anal play, be sure to use lots of lube and continue to re-apply as you go!

Psst…worried about anal prep? Check out our previous blog post.

Playing with a partner

Internal prostate play can be difficult to do solo (unless with toys) so it can be helpful to explore and play with a partner. It can be hard to find, so don’t get discouraged! Communicate as you go with how it feels and give feedback to your partner as they explore your backdoor.

However, if playing solo, you can also stimulate the prostate externally through the perineum!

Pro tip: Try looking for a cock ring & prostate massager 2-in-1 type toy that stimulates the penis and the prostate at the same time.

Ways to Stimulate


Starting slow, use fingers to experiment with speed, pressure, and direction on the prostate - which can help to stimulate the pleasurable nerve endings around the anal opening as well.


  • Side-to-side (like windshield wipers)
  • Circles
  • A “come hither” motion that’s more massaging rather than dragging


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Because your fingers might get tired (and that’s okay), that’s what prostate toys are for! Not only can they provide that ideal angled reach, but they also help to provide a continuity of pressure as well.

Try rocking it back and forth against the prostate rather than the in-and-out motion of penetration. Some also vibrate for added pleasure and a different type of sensation.

Pro tip: Want to add some weight to your pressure? Try playing with a metal toy!


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Providing an even more intimate way to share prostate pleasure with a partner, a strap-on can also be worn - also known as pegging.

Shallow penetration with a curved dildo is really what you want to be able to reach & stimulate the prostate as well as to avoid it feeling too pointy or “jabby” in the butt…unless you like that sorta thing, you do you!

Try adding in other erogenous zones!

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Spread out the pleasure throughout the rest of the body too! You can enjoy prostate play simultaneously with stimulation of the nipples, penis, perineum, etc.